Taming the Tongue

Did you ever say something that you were thinking, and immediately wish you could force the words back into your mouth? Sometimes words just come out when we let our guard down or when we are in a particularly bad mood. And those words can be destructive to relationships, to the morale of another, and can be the worst possible witness to someone who knows you are a Christian.

I know I’m guilty of saying things then  immediately realizing I shouldn’t have said them. Truth be told, I usually know I shouldn’t say them even before they see the light of day, but I let them out anyway. The funny thing is, I can easily find someone who will tell me it’s okay, to defend my right to say what I have said. Our society has become so accustomed to mean and complaining speech, and even to lying, that most people have lost any compass to what is right speech. In fact, just last week I was complaining about someone never coming through on time, and even used some words I almost never use. I apologized to the person I was speaking to (who is a fellow Christian), saying I shouldn’t say such things, and she said, “That’s okay. I understand.” Ironically, I checked my email a few minutes later only to find the document I had complained I wouldn’t get on time right there!   

James wrote condemning such speech: 

With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be. Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? My brothers, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water. James 3:9-12

I want my words to always glorify God, and most of the time they do. But does the salt of my wrong words ruin the fresh taste of my praise to God? I know God, though the Holy Spirit, is quick to let me know when my words are not pleasing. But does it really matter? If I praise God today, what is the harm if I complain about or curse someone else tomorrow? The world doesn’t seem to think it is a problem. I think a line in the song “Nothing at All” by Third Day answers the question well:  

I think it’s time that we all realize
a broken heart is hard to mend
If you can’t say nothin’ good don’t say nothin’ at all

Sometimes the damage done by words spoken carelessly can’t be undone. Hearts can be broken, reputations tarnished, relationships irreparably harmed.  

But positive speech, finding and speaking of the good in others, is not only pleasing to God but makes for a better life for the speaker and those around them. Psalm 34 has great advice on this topic. I think I’m going to try, with the help of God, to follow the advice of King David.

 Psalm 34:12-14
Whoever of you loves life
       and desires to see many good days,      
keep your tongue from evil
       and your lips from speaking lies.     
Turn from evil and do good;
       seek peace and pursue it. 

If you want to accept this challenge with me, here’s what I’m praying today: “Lord, help me to tame my tongue. I have proven over and over that I can’t do it on my own, but through the power of your Holy Spirit, I can do anything. Help me to speak only words that will glorify you. Amen.”     


I am a Jesus Freak, and I don't care who knows it. I am a wife, mother, sister, aunt, daughter, and friend. My blood family is only part of the larger family of Christ that I belong to. I love to write, especially about my dear Savior.


9 Responses

  1. Hi again
    Yes, you will like Martin. Larry is a bit different in his writing. I have learned so much from him because he doesn’t write like me at all. He focuses on different areas of his Spiritual walk than I do, and I don’t always agree with him. But I have no doubt he has a deep deep love for the Lord, and nine times out of ten, I learn something new every time I read Him. I pray for all twelve of you that I follow twice daily, as the day doesn’t seem right if I don’t read your lessons. I am deeply enriched by the encouragement I get from all of you each day. God Bless


  2. Linda,
    Wow, that was an amazing lesson. Your Spiritual wisdom is evident in your writings, and your passion to pursue Him and die to self daily is also evident. It is funny, there are a group of us that are “SO” on the same page and also at the same place in our faith. Gladwell, Rani, Vineet, Larry, and Martin, I think you read all of them also, but we all think so much alike. I cannot tell you the times I have written, and on the same day two of my other blogger friends wrote the same thing. I don’t know if you read martin, if you don’t let me know and I will give you his link. God Bless you sister
    PS had surgery this mornin, so if I sound a bit loopy, it’s the pills . 😉

    • Jim, Thanks. I just hope my “Spiritual wisdom” actually shows in my every day life. It’s easy to talk the talk, harder to walk the walk. But by relying on Him each day I get closer and closer. I have noticed the same thing about our little group. I haven’t read Martin, and would love the link. I’ve only read a bit of Larry’s but plan to go back and check it out some more. I will pray for a speedy and blessed recovery from your surgery. Peace, Linda

      • I pray that the series will be used by the Holy Spirit to enable you to control that small but powerful rudder! You will be blessed by Al Martin. He deals with matters in a very thorough and biblical fashion.

        “Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.” (Proverbs 16:32)

        “…the fruit of the Spirit is… self-control” (Gal 5)

  3. I all too often seek out those who I know will support what I have said, just to ease my guilt. Luckily the Holy Spirit is far stronger than the words of agreement I seek and I repent. Thanks for reminding me that words are powerful.

  4. What’s the verse that talks about Lord be the gatekeeper of my mouth, or something like that. I so need this constant reminder. Thanks for writing this.

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